A Little Bit About Me
Asalaamu Alaikum.
I would like to share with you straight away that I have children ranging from 21 to 30 years old.
I don't mind if you already have children or if you have none at all BUT please know that if we ARE brought together by the Will of Allah (swt), I am UNable to provide for you, a child, from our own union
Are you still with me? Okay....
I work 2 jobs. Mashallah. This is partly by choice but mostly by necessity. One is in the travel industry, with a major airline and the other is in the nursing field, involving long term care. Both jobs are very rewarding in different ways. Because I have the flexibility with my types of work, I am able to schedule my hours or even take time off as needed to be with my children.
I am willing to relocate for the right person or you are welcome to live here amongst us natives, surrounded by ocean, mountains, forest, volcanoes, tropical breezes or looming sky scrappers-depending on which island you prefer ;)
I was born and raised in Hawaii and am of mixed ethnicity. I find it acceptable and natural to mingle different ethnicities and cultures. So, it will be no surprise when I share that I was once married to a muslim man from Bangladesh.
For whatever reason, he did not teach me much about Islam. What little I know is from books or the internet. These are my only resources because the place where I am currently living has no mosque.
I am eager to learn all that I can but I want to be careful to learn the correct ways of Islam.
You will see that the selections in my profile under "Religion" reflect things as they are now. My goal is to learn the ways of Islam and to always maintain Salaah, Halal and everything else that is expected of us as Muslims.
That being said (and if you are still interested) please read on.
I am a woman who is very conscientious about the needs and feelings of others. I have a soft spot for the elderly. And I suppose I should mention that I really like animals. REALLY, REALLY.
People who know me would describe me as being a nurturer, an idealist, somewhat analytical, perhaps shy at times AAAAND I am comfortable using a wrench or hammer when need be ;)
Other qualities mentioned would be sincerity, tolerance, loyalty, attentiveness and an appropriate amount of independence.
I find joy in the simple things and prefer 'function' over 'fashion', wildflowers over roses, or a picnic over fine dining. However, I do like going to operas, plays, museums and cultural events. Relaxing moments at home are just as good.
Material possessions, looks, or excessive amounts of money do not impress me. Experience & maturity have only reinforced my belief that although these things MAY lead to a certain comfort level, none of it matters when trying to establish & sustain a MEANINGFUL relationship.
When it comes to integrity of character, I tend to set the bar high and challenge others to do the same. Please don't misunderstand this to be haughtiness.
I will be the first to say that we (my children & I) are not perfect beings but I try to set an example of challenging ourselves to be the best we can be, in all aspects.
Family is THE most important thing to me. Everything I do is with them in mind. I am also quite appreciative of my family's unique sense of humor which so often saves me from being pulled under by the occasional drudgery or challenge that comes about in life.
I am a supporter of dreams. What ever someone aspires to be, where ever someone wishes to go, if it is something they truly believe in and has good intentions about, I will rally behind them.
Of course, this is not all that I am but it's a start. So, if you are still here after reading all of the above, I invite you to continue on.
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What I Am Looking For
I have children, so I suppose an obvious preference would be that he enjoys kids and presents himself appropriately. He should possess core values equal to that of a good muslim father figure.
I am looking for a clear, consistent, & solid male role model for my children. A man who is gentle, kind and knowledgeable in life, academics & Islam.
We are only interested in a man that does NOT express or exhibit (verbal or physical) hostility or mean/vicious intentions when he experiences anger.
It is important to us that you can be firm without bringing physical or emotional harm to others.
My ideal match would also be affectionate, mature minded, appreciates humor and has the skill to induce others to laugh.
He would enjoy nature, be physically active, encouraging, articulate, confident, patient, intelligent, expressive, and responsible.
He would be a man who is not afraid of emotions, accountability, & commitment.
You & I would be partners in parenting but the children & I would look to you for leadership and guidance.
I am wanting and needing a man who will value me and my children. A man who would recognize, acknowledge, encourage and hold close all that I am (we are) and all that I (we) aspire to be.
If you have similar views, and are searching for a woman who can reciprocate your feelings & efforts AND you are not put off by my age or the fact that I already have children....... let me know :)
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